Situation...say you have a boyfriend/girlfriend and your trying to work on your relationship, tryna basically take it to the next level and see where it can go, but their are a few speed bumps that you wanna fix before you can get there. So you confide in your mate the issues and struggles you have with certain moves or actions your partner makes in certain situations and your partner reply is...ok...OK. So my big question really is what the hell is OK, is that an answer to a question which clearly needs a few more words with syllables, and nouns. So I looked it up OK- an approval, agreement and endorsement,- all right, well enough, successfully fine. So then I thought hmmm, now that doesn't seem like the appropriate answer to a question that didn't end with a is, did, they, or starts with ok...ect
This word should be blasphemy, the only time you should use ok is when you get a direct order and you comply to accept and complete it. Am I wrong for going in, I mean isn't this a fact, I've honestly seen, used and heard people us OK as a way to shut down the other person when in a argument, or debate. Especially is your debating someone like me, who loves to not only get her point across but wants to make you understand it too. So once you say ok, I'm ok did you get it, or ok just to shut me up, and then you get frustrated. So imagine you in a heated disagreement with your mate and either of you say ok, either one will get tight, granted if their is feelings are involved. Now you might be reading and think, what if the person actually understood what was said and said ok because so and actually did change, now I find that in the human brain and I am no doctor, BUT I find that in order to completely understand what one is trying to say you must repeat it in your own words out loud so you hear it and fully understand it, now you may think you don't have to say it aloud but you do, your sub conscious picks up things that your brain doesn't, and it makes you recall better when you hear things aloud. Once you repeat what your partner has said and in your owns words, you reassure your partner that you understood, and its up to you to change. But its better to change something you understood than saying ok just to shut the other person, don't understand, don't change and waste each others time.
So next time don't just say OK, listen to your partner, hear them out, give them time to speak then chime in. Listen, Hear, compromise, learn, and change. If your having trouble in this area practice this with your parents, listen to them, hear them out, compromise, learn from your mistakes and change. This will only better your relationship and save you from eternal loneliness
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