Mama's Boy...

Mama's boy- a grown man who is still dependant on his mother. A grown man who cannot make decisions for himself, and like to be taken cared of by his mother. A grown man who transfers all the responsibility of his dependency of his mother on his wife or girlfriend. This goes way back to who ever played a mother figure in the males life. That role shapes both a positive and a negative effects on the outcome of who they will marry, what they will expect, and who they put above the other.




A "mama's boy" is depicted as being a young man who can't live without his mommy, so much to the fact that when he marries he will look for a woman that will do everything his mom did. Sigmund Freud said that mama's boys love their mother so much at a young age that when he sees the father take away the attention that the young man wants, he gets jealous and wants to kill the father to replace him, he went as far as saying the little boy also would want to engage in sex with their mother because that was what the father did, and when he replaces him, he takes on that role aswell. Now I disagree with that last part highly, but I do agree with him when he says that the young man wants to replace the father, which brings me to a mama's boy getting married and the outcome. When a man that is a mama's boy get married, they in fact turn into the father at an older age which would be the husband and the mother would be the wife. That is why a mama's boy would expect his wife to do everything there mother has. Clean the house, wash the clothes, iron them, cook him dinner, pay the bills, now I'm not just saying that only mama's boys wants this because when you think about it all men want this. What I'm saying is that they as a mama's boy, according to my interpretation of Frued, men will always be boys, and want to be treated as such in those cases, men don't want to cook, clean and do laundry they feel its not their job, and because their mothers did it, so should the wives. Now not all men are like this but the majority of them are. They want the benefits of a wife and the treatment of a mother.


What has to happen is that the men need to disassociate their mother from their wife, they need to learn that its not one sided, and its a joined effort. You may wonder why you as a man, has a mother that did that stop and didn't complain, and why now your wife aint really having it, and its simply because times change. The new age wife is completely different from the old school one, and you as a man just need to make minor adjustments. Men if your planning on getting married talk about this stuff before you get engaged, because the last thing you want is to be blind sided cause I won't life girls now a days aren't as clean as your mother was back in the day, and also she has years of practice. That is another thing that men don't realize, you weren't there in the beginning of your parents relationship, you didn't see all of the fights before hand, what your mother is now most likely took her years to get there. So please don't get into a marriage and think its gonna be anything like what your mother has in the first 5 years, not even in your wildest dreams. Living with someone and dating is two different things, being married and being in a relationship is two different things, as the dynamic changes everything changes, don't get it twisted there's is no such thing as perfection in any relationship regardless of who you think you are. And chances are if your not fighting your being fake as hell, I digress. Men don't plan to marry your "mother", your wife will never be her no matter how hard to try to train her, mold her or change her, deal with it.

Also another thing that bugs me is when men put their mother on a pedestal, and their girlfriend or wife has to try to live up to the expectation of your mother. No No Noooo it doesn't go that way, you either accept her or you don't, no woman can replace your mom that is a fact, but no woman should feel intimidated by her by your cause. You should learn to separate, making each woman feel completely secure in who they are in your life, and know that they know their role and how to play it. Men know that when it comes to your mom they got your back and they will protect your heart at any cost, if you make them feel like the woman in your life isn't worth it they will separate you just because there protecting you, so before you as a man run to mommy to tell on your girl about a mistake she made think about the long term, and how the relationship will change because of your actions, be a damm Man and handle your business without having to run to mommy all the time.

And ladies if you have a mama's boy and you think its cute because he highly respects his mom and you feel you will get the same treatment think again, mom will never be replaced but you easily can, so as a woman know your role and play it right, stay in your lane at all times and if he doesn't make you feel secure about the role you play in his life like Jamie fox use to say "girl you better STEP", you don't need that kind of stress in your life, it will be a havoc in your life. Always use wisdom, and know yourself.