Winter Blues

Waiting on love in the cold is one of the most hardest things you can ever experience, its like your on an island by yourself but its still full of people and they are actually in "love". I use quotations because there are actually people who just hook up for the winter and then when it gets nice again they switch parties. It occurs on a yearly basis for those who experience the cold, girls decide to live in mini skirt, while dudes walk around showing their six pack abs in their low V neck sleeveless shirts, while showing their definition when the season roles in. I find people tend to break up, or go on a "break", in which they have fun and live promiscuously and then when fall comes around again they feel the need to call up that old buddy to keep them warm for the upcoming winter. Not to mention everyone wants a date for Thanksgiving and Christmas parties. Although I don't think a lot of people still have this mentality its mostly for free spirits, sluts and teenagers, but I digress. So were back to you being on that island, and your getting depressed wondering when will my time be, when will I find the right guy or girl, and then your more depressed when you realize most of the men are gay and the good ones are taken, and the other ones aren't ready for a serious relationship. So what can you do in this situation, well I have some solutions to help solve your problem, and believe you me its no mystery.

Step one, make yourself available during seasons one and two, make male friends from work, be friendly and make them your buddies with a little casual flirting on the side, but not too much to give it away. Step two, go to lounging and become outgoing, talk to people not just men but women, make yourself known in the crowd so that when that lucky one spots you he will think your fascinating and want to get to know you. Although if you are the type of female that is shy then sit by the bar in a stunning dress and drink a class of wine or a virgin pina colada and think about things, unwind and someone will definitely approach you, but don't forget to invite at least one friend to come meet you for after an hour of you being there so you wont seem that lonely. Step three, if you have a lot of females friends they should surely be able to hook you up with a friend, or a friend of a friend, or a cousin or even and uncle if you get desperate, use your connections wisely. Step four, if all else fails turn to your mother or grandmother, they always have someone they want to hook you up with, either from church, or a friends grandson they might know, and hey you never know he or she might be a looker.

Some way somehow find a way to not be single so that by this time in the year you will be happy and in love, or arguing and not lonely. I thought Valentines Day was the worst holiday to be single on, but I just realized its not because at least on Valentines day its only one day and you don't see that kind of affection again until the winter time. So to avoid walking down the road alone seeing people hand in hand and hugging up with their mate in the corner, make it happen before this season rolls around. If you simply cannot make this happen, then get a really good book and enjoy it while traveling on the train, on the bus, when you stop to get coffee or when you go out for lunch. Make sure that the book is in your hand and let the drama, crime, romance or mystery keep you warm and company at night. Books are a really good distraction from the outside world and reading at least five or ten big books will keep you busy for the winter season and you can try my theory when spring comes in.

Lynlolo