The List!

By: Carolyn Lingo

There's a feeling you feel when your spending time with someone and each time you spend with them you either realize this is the person for you, or you made a big mistake and your wasting your time. I had the feeling today, so I'm sitting in a car with someone I actually thought I wanted to be with, I guess I made it up in my mind to be with this person because I thought that there was no one else. There goes my first problem, in that last sentence I said I thought there was nobody else, but there is always someone else, yes everyone has that unique special someone that is made for them, but what I'm saying is if this person isn't them, if they don't make the candle and light the fire then don't settle. Don't waste you time with someone that isn't for you, make damn sure that they have everything on your check list.

The check list, that is the list that you make when you are looking to settle down, some girls make this list when they are younger and they look at there daddies and say they want a man just like him. This case is for children who actually had there parents around, for those of us who hasn't we tend to turn to movies and television shows that has the perfect guy with the perfect character. So you get a pen and paper, or you make a mental note of all the things that you want in this guy, whether is be smart, funny, tall, and handsome, goofy or nerdy, what ever it is that is on your list make sure you know  what it is that you want. Granted that list may change any vary during your life span but at least have a specific type, don't settle.

In my case I was contemplating on settling because I personally am a Church girl, and the churches I go to aren't spilling over with guys, so my pick is a lot slim and once a good one rolls around you kind of get desperate. However I learned my lesson, I was with someone that I didn't particularly like at all, strike one, I was almost repulsed by them. He wasn't funny, he wasn't that smart, he wasn't charming and didn't sweep me off my feet, yet he did other things, he opened the door, he made sure I was warm and always catered to me, so I weighed the bad out with the good. Now that we don't mesh anymore it made me think, even though he did all those nice things, some of those  things weren't on my list. I can tell this though I am definitely adding some of those things on my list but I guess it just wasn't meant to be. By no means am I going to give up, and I am not going to settle, I am just going to wait on God and see who he has for me. In the mean time I can formulate my list and make it even more specific, so that when I see my Mr right do and say certain things I can no for sure it is for me.

So don't settle, your Mr right or Mrs is out there for you, they are making their check list for you as you are making one for them, and hey you may find someone while writing you checklist if it isn't in the comfort of you own home.

Lynlolo