Soul-Mate

Let me know the ways so that i can be your perfect soul mate...CUT, how can someone try to be someones perfect soul mate its either you are or you not, its that's simple. That brings me to my subject for today, how can one be someones perfect soul mate. Now when I say perfect soul mate I mean this person loves all your flaws and thinks its poetic. They just tend to love every little thing about you and know you down to a T in less than a year of the relationship. I say in less than a year because anyone can learn things about you as the relationship progresses, but the more they know in the less time shows how truly perfect they are for you. The person should just do things that you would do and vice versa, they would pick up where you slack and always remain on the same page no matter what. Everyone is born with a match in life, and when you date you are suppose to be trying to find that perfect match or your true love.

In true love instances you find the person of your dreams and they are your match for life, other times you take a risk with a person and see what the turn out is, and if it happens to work and you both were willing to compromise then that's beautiful. But for that isn't fate that is weighing your options and making it work for you. I'm talking about the"Ooo she/he look mad good imma go bag and see if she/he take my number and call me" in the beginning and then after a few dates you get to know the person and you end up liking them and you develop a relationship to see if things could work and they do. But if were talking about fate, I'm talking about the "wow this person seems to have all the characteristics I would want in a partner", then your thinking if there thinking the same thing. So when you realize this person is your soul mate, and your telling the story about how you met, you find out you guys were thinking the exact same thing about each other, that's when it clicks that you are in fact meant for each other. I believe their is nothing better than being on the same page even before the relationship (Sounds crazy but some people want the same things and they can just tell what the other wants just by looking at them). I love nothing more when a partner can tell what I'm thinking and how I'm feeling without me even having to open my mouth, is and unspoken language that your soul mate speaks because their your match, your perfect pair, they can just tell and make it right.

Back to the meet and greet, granted you won't know this person and you haven't spoken to them, your basically going off looks, but depending on the scenery you can study the person based on what there doing. Now this scenario only goes for people who meet their soul mates in for example the book store, or on the line at a store or grocery, seen them in church, or somewhere you can study them before you make you approach. Definitely not no random walking down the street approach because lets face it, you just tryna bag if she/he is off the street (on the road) and trust it wont be for more than free food and mindless fooling around. So you put on your inspector gadget specs on and you kinda play context clues and see what their about, then you muscle up the nerve to ask them out. Now this can go for ladies who feel their of the the new millennium and brave enough to bag dudes. Now if your the shy/classy type who believes a man should take the lead and play his role, then the same follows if he is for you he will approach you. Now this isn't a simple "bagging" but a get to know you kinda meet and greet, the person will engage in a conversation, no matter where they are only if interested (only if there in a rush they would apologize and tell you they will call) but for a soul mate type scene he/she would talk with you before they get the number. See everyman knows what they want in a female, if they want sex he will take your number and talk to you in two to three days to put the moves on you, but if he likes what he sees and is intrigued by the conversation, he will call you the same night to see if you got home safely and make a date with you the next day.

Now during this time period i would like for either of you, while your getting to know each other DO NOT BE FAKE under ANY circumstances, this will mess up the flow of things and throw the relationship over board and it would have a gunshot wound eternally bleeding until it dries out and just dies. I just hate when your in a relationship and one party tells you they like something and you agree just so you can have something in common. Once you start with lies, you will lie again and again until your a different person, and you would have changed yourself just to make the relationship work. Now imma be honest black people or African Americans don't normally do this but some do, this is generally for Caucasian folks, you girls lie through your teeth (and your pretty good at it) but in the end you loose. You think you get the perfect guy but in fact he is only in love with you because of the mirage you put up for him, and when your true colors start to show and he sees you for what you really are he would walk away; not because your different, but because you lied.

Recap: Your Soul Mate is the person who finishes your sentences on the fifth date, they know you because you would have so much in common, they would be the ying to your yang. This person makes you feel complete to the point where you don't look at anyone else, not even for looking sake. You just know you have the right person that's just for you, you wouldn't even have to feel jealous or intimidated by anyone else because no one is like you but you. There is only 1 Soul Mate for every 1 person, and when you find him/her you would feel like you have everything you would ever need. I haven't found mine yet but I'm still looking and believing in God, and in Gods time he will be revealed to me and i will have true happiness. Good movie reference to true love watch "When Harry Met Sally" it is one of the best love stories in the late eighties, and  is very memorable. The movie showed that no matter how long you are away from the person if their your Soul Mate they will come back to you. Some of the older couples that did the commentary said when they saw their Soul Mate in a matter of weeks they were married to them and most of the marriages lasted over 30 years, and they still looked happy. I believe that in this time and day it can still happen, even though a lot has changed socially and economically, some things always stay the same and that's TRUE LOVE!