Alright now this is for the chick who moves fast in relationships yea! You know who, guilty as
charged. I dated someone for about 4 months and in my mind it seemed like a year...Anyway you can call me or people like me a 16-20 weeker (i.e that's the longest they can hold a relationship) and FYI, as I have said in my past blogs, I am the walker; "the one who walks away". BTW, I am not proud , but that was in my past life.
charged. I dated someone for about 4 months and in my mind it seemed like a year...Anyway you can call me or people like me a 16-20 weeker (i.e that's the longest they can hold a relationship) and FYI, as I have said in my past blogs, I am the walker; "the one who walks away". BTW, I am not proud , but that was in my past life.
Any who - things that make relationships go stale is seeing each other everyday which is a NO-GO; you want your partner to miss your face and your presence. Therefore, moving in together in the first 6-12 months is also a NO-GO. Maybe after 3 years when you see that he/she is devoted to you 100% and you see marriage and kids in your future then; but take your time. So if you are a 16-20 "weeker" you should try a hobby or taking up more hrs at work to prolong the relationship. Also, remember to go out from time to time; staying in can also get stale.
Most men are lazy and don't know how to have fun; so that's when manipulation comes into play. Ladies you can use your facial expressions to show sadness and get what you want. You don't always have to resort to sex; there is so much more to us than that. Basically make known that no favors will be given on their behalf because of their selfishness. No matter what; take a stand cause that's where their lack of compromise comes back into play and they should be punished. You can also act like you don't care and hint that you will take someone else instead; just don't tell what's the sex of the other individual. Men love to jump to conclusion and will automatically think it will be a male. This is depending on the relationship and how good or bad it is. For instance, if your man is suspect; then this will not work because he will jump to conclusion and use this as an opportunity to go out with another female. But, if he loves you, he will get jealous and make moves to please you and ease his conscience. If he plays the (I'm not the jealous type card) then you can call his bluff and gather your things to leave and make moves. Again, if he does love you he will just give in because he sees that you are serious. This will work, only if you know your partner.
See! another reason why relationships fail is because people fail to see what is before them. You have to be able to walk into a relationship with your eyes open and know what you want going into. Most people cant do that; they are easily distracted by the person's looks, or if the relationship started out perfect; they are just shocked that it even worked out and are pleased no matter what the person does. Some people especially females tend to look past the bad and see the good even if the good in the relationship is little to none.
Insecurity also plays a big role in relationships and the lack their-of. People don't realize its not what you want; but what you need. People also don't take in account their past experiences and learn from them. You cant date the same type of people over and over again, and not realize that the pattern is not working. If you had bad experiences with this one type of personality; even if that's what you are attracted to; you have to learn to adjust your like and dislikes and make it work for you. It has to be good for you and has to better you. You should grow and learn from this person; not go backwards, but forwards. So for your relationship to work: adjust your likes and make it work for you because in the end it can damage you.
Basically don't date someone like your ex! unless you handle the situation differently. For instance; if your ex in a situation would take things out of hand; and you present girlfriend ends up in the same situation and deals with it entirely different in a good way then I can see it working. But don't date someone that has your ex's bad habits or history. It will repeat itself. So basically start to think about yourself first; then think about the duds you have experienced in the past; learn from them and in your next selection get to know them as friends. See if this will better you in the future and if it could work. THIS IS ONLY FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE READY TO SETTLE DOWN AND NOT WASTE TIME. If your just in the dating scene and having fun do your thing, and always remember wear protection over your heart and over his Johnson =)
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