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The List!

By: Carolyn Lingo

There's a feeling you feel when your spending time with someone and each time you spend with them you either realize this is the person for you, or you made a big mistake and your wasting your time. I had the feeling today, so I'm sitting in a car with someone I actually thought I wanted to be with, I guess I made it up in my mind to be with this person because I thought that there was no one else. There goes my first problem, in that last sentence I said I thought there was nobody else, but there is always someone else, yes everyone has that unique special someone that is made for them, but what I'm saying is if this person isn't them, if they don't make the candle and light the fire then don't settle. Don't waste you time with someone that isn't for you, make damn sure that they have everything on your check list.

The check list, that is the list that you make when you are looking to settle down, some girls make this list when they are younger and they look at there daddies and say they want a man just like him. This case is for children who actually had there parents around, for those of us who hasn't we tend to turn to movies and television shows that has the perfect guy with the perfect character. So you get a pen and paper, or you make a mental note of all the things that you want in this guy, whether is be smart, funny, tall, and handsome, goofy or nerdy, what ever it is that is on your list make sure you know  what it is that you want. Granted that list may change any vary during your life span but at least have a specific type, don't settle.

In my case I was contemplating on settling because I personally am a Church girl, and the churches I go to aren't spilling over with guys, so my pick is a lot slim and once a good one rolls around you kind of get desperate. However I learned my lesson, I was with someone that I didn't particularly like at all, strike one, I was almost repulsed by them. He wasn't funny, he wasn't that smart, he wasn't charming and didn't sweep me off my feet, yet he did other things, he opened the door, he made sure I was warm and always catered to me, so I weighed the bad out with the good. Now that we don't mesh anymore it made me think, even though he did all those nice things, some of those  things weren't on my list. I can tell this though I am definitely adding some of those things on my list but I guess it just wasn't meant to be. By no means am I going to give up, and I am not going to settle, I am just going to wait on God and see who he has for me. In the mean time I can formulate my list and make it even more specific, so that when I see my Mr right do and say certain things I can no for sure it is for me.

So don't settle, your Mr right or Mrs is out there for you, they are making their check list for you as you are making one for them, and hey you may find someone while writing you checklist if it isn't in the comfort of you own home.

Lynlolo

Winter Blues

Waiting on love in the cold is one of the most hardest things you can ever experience, its like your on an island by yourself but its still full of people and they are actually in "love". I use quotations because there are actually people who just hook up for the winter and then when it gets nice again they switch parties. It occurs on a yearly basis for those who experience the cold, girls decide to live in mini skirt, while dudes walk around showing their six pack abs in their low V neck sleeveless shirts, while showing their definition when the season roles in. I find people tend to break up, or go on a "break", in which they have fun and live promiscuously and then when fall comes around again they feel the need to call up that old buddy to keep them warm for the upcoming winter. Not to mention everyone wants a date for Thanksgiving and Christmas parties. Although I don't think a lot of people still have this mentality its mostly for free spirits, sluts and teenagers, but I digress. So were back to you being on that island, and your getting depressed wondering when will my time be, when will I find the right guy or girl, and then your more depressed when you realize most of the men are gay and the good ones are taken, and the other ones aren't ready for a serious relationship. So what can you do in this situation, well I have some solutions to help solve your problem, and believe you me its no mystery.

Step one, make yourself available during seasons one and two, make male friends from work, be friendly and make them your buddies with a little casual flirting on the side, but not too much to give it away. Step two, go to lounging and become outgoing, talk to people not just men but women, make yourself known in the crowd so that when that lucky one spots you he will think your fascinating and want to get to know you. Although if you are the type of female that is shy then sit by the bar in a stunning dress and drink a class of wine or a virgin pina colada and think about things, unwind and someone will definitely approach you, but don't forget to invite at least one friend to come meet you for after an hour of you being there so you wont seem that lonely. Step three, if you have a lot of females friends they should surely be able to hook you up with a friend, or a friend of a friend, or a cousin or even and uncle if you get desperate, use your connections wisely. Step four, if all else fails turn to your mother or grandmother, they always have someone they want to hook you up with, either from church, or a friends grandson they might know, and hey you never know he or she might be a looker.

Some way somehow find a way to not be single so that by this time in the year you will be happy and in love, or arguing and not lonely. I thought Valentines Day was the worst holiday to be single on, but I just realized its not because at least on Valentines day its only one day and you don't see that kind of affection again until the winter time. So to avoid walking down the road alone seeing people hand in hand and hugging up with their mate in the corner, make it happen before this season rolls around. If you simply cannot make this happen, then get a really good book and enjoy it while traveling on the train, on the bus, when you stop to get coffee or when you go out for lunch. Make sure that the book is in your hand and let the drama, crime, romance or mystery keep you warm and company at night. Books are a really good distraction from the outside world and reading at least five or ten big books will keep you busy for the winter season and you can try my theory when spring comes in.

Lynlolo

Heart stuck in the Future

By: Carolyn Lingo

What if I was with someone and I was content with the relationship but not happy. Basically settling for the person I was with because I couldn't wait and I wanted a substitution, but my heart was in fact thinking about being with someone else, someone I haven't even met yet. Someone I was hopeful to meet, to save me, and be everything I wanted, but couldn't have that right at this very moment. So I have this half ass relationship to fill a void until Mr right comes along. Now this is actually something I thought of doing at one point.

I use to be one of those people who needed to be in a relationship, or dealing with someone. I was never really single, always dating because I needed the stimulation. Wrong word, I needed to be engaged in the company of the opposite sex, because( I'm guessing "daddy issues") but it just made me feel complete. So after I got saved (gave my life to Christ) and finally devoted myself to God, I figured God had someone perfect for me and I would have him but in Gods time, and we all know his time and ours are completely different. So I figured I would date someone and keep it light until one day the right one would come along. But then It hit me and I thought, what if the guy of my dreams was to show up, how would I go about breaking my substitutes heart. I would have probably been with this guy for awhile, and would have to eventually let them go. I would probably feel sorry for him and make him break up with me in a manipulative way. Then So I thought, wouldn't I be a horrible person, I mean I've done it before but that was then, I have no excuses now. So I'm my human mind I thought, I'm just gonna be single and rid myself of the drama, because that's what I wanted, I wanted drama. If I wanted it, it would have happened and I would have hurt someone intentionally, and that is not very christian like. I always said I didn't wanna be a stumbling block to another person again in my life, I have done so for years and I thought now when I'm actually taking God seriously I wouldn't, so I put away those thoughts and said I'm waiting on you Lord. By the way, for those of you who don't know a Stumbling block is a person or thing that hinders you in moving forward, specifically religious wise, but can be used in both ways. Its something that you allow to stand in your own way of getting where you want to go with God. If I were in a relationship it would be for selfish reasons, its like dating someone to fill the void or space in your life until you found the right guy for you, it is evil, vindictive, manipulative and contrary. I honestly don't think I could do it, I retract my statement because in doing so you will have to be fake and if your real and your playing fake you can only be fake for so long. It would also make others question the fact that a "saved" person could do such a worldly thing. Another reason not to do it, were all God children, and if you mess with one of them and perform such a selfish act, God himself will personally send out a punishment, and I'm betting its one you wouldn't like.

So instead of having my heart stuck in the future i'm going to leave it with Jesus and have him make the decision for me, but boy as a woman I swear we love drama. Life would just be to boring without it, and that's why we watch reality TV and soap operas. But I'm just going to have to make my own drama in my blog post and my book which is in the making.

Washing of the hands!

I wonder if washing your hands of someone is christian like, they say sometimes people enter your life for a reason and exit when there purpose is full filled, so is that like washing your hands of them. Maybe the term washing your hands is more negative because its like your saying im done with that person in a negative way, but when it has to do with God now its more like well i still love you and we can be friends from a far. It just makes me wonder whats next on the agenda, I am seeing people walk out of my life and I honestly feel no ill will towards them, I am actually praying for them and wishing them well. I guess that's with growth and maturity. As I watched and saw people go I thought I am a loner I can be good by myself besides I have only child syndrome, but then I realized I like having friends but when I want them and that isn't very nice, even though dudes get that so well, that's why having male friends are a lot better. So this brings me to my conclusion of the night, In order for me to have female friends I must change something about myself, so I shall turn again to prayer and ask God to help me be a better friend and a lot more reliable and less sometimeish. But in the mean time I can acquire all the male friends I do have and I guess make them closer to some extent lol, I mean I have a lot of male friends that I randomly hit up when I feel like, but I guess I can draw some of them nearer and maybe even open up to knew ones, shout out to Zeus lmbo. Anywho I am off to bed this was my thought process of the night and I felt I would share it, so I am off to bed with a weird crooked smile on my face because for what ever reason I am happy and totally stress free and that is a blessing so I publicly say thank you Jesus for saving me and giving me peace in the midst of the storm. You are indeed my best-est friend that can never be replaced and this post had nothing to do with us just the human race that you created. The confusingly touchy and overly emotional feminine race ughh , which leads me to wonder am I like them, God I hope I'm different, more he than she in the head and obviously more she than he everywhere else, on that weird note goodnight folks.

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Blank like the sheet of paper
Blank like my thought process
Blank like the void in my life
Blank like the emptiness beside my soul
Blank like the lonely shepherd as he tirelessly waits for the missing herd
Blank like the empty chamber in my glock 23
Blank like the bullet holes through my once broken heart
Blank like this random poem about random feelings
Blank like I'm too busy to be thinking about this

She lays in wait

She lays on her bed, tears on her pillow
She imagines a world she can only dream
Confused at her life, she laid with despair
Conscious of her mistakes she wipes her tears
She prays for a time machine
Something to undue her past
Upset she look up and wondered her future
Everything has been bad thus far the worst is yet to come she thought
Seeing her growth she still finds flaws
Nothing is ever good enough she can't be pleased
Wondering when the feeling will change
When will she accept herself, when will she learn
What wisdom has she gained, what lesson have she learned
A new day and nothings changed
She lays in wait